Dee: (The) Mama Blog

Ha! A break? I don't think I've had a break since 2016! The mama's that have partners... it's so funny to look at them have the luxury to say to you "I'm just relaxing upstairs" or "If you need me i'm upstairs" or better yet, "I'm going to sleep" I don't think any of these words have had the opportunity to leave my mouth. If I go upstairs... it's to use the toilet; and little hands and feet are right on my butt. I'm not 'relaxing' upstairs, I'm putting clothes away, changing bedsheets, or cleaning the bathroom. If I'm going to 'sleep' I'm putting the kids to sleep, rather. It is really a 24/7/365 kind of job, motherhood.. the only break is literally when we've finally decided to go to sleep! Even that sometimes gets disrupted; if it's one of those nights where your child is waking up every hour; or if they're teething so their sleep is disrupted, or if they're g...

"I think your child is hungry" His warm breath passes through my ears. I look at him from the side of my eye and smile. "Thank you. He's already eaten." "Your child is crying, he sounds really upset" I start to speak through my grinning teeth. "Thank you for your concern, sir." The child stops crying. She gets up and covers her child with a blanket, as well as placing another blanket under his head. She stares the gentleman in his eyes as she sits back down in her seat.

I've been in such a deep state of thought for the past couple of weeks since this whole George Floyd murder.. Racism is still evident.. it never disappeared. But racism is NOT something that you're born with.. it's something that is taught. How can children not like other children of a different skin colour? Are they even paying attention to that? They are children-- all they want to do is play! And it just goes to show that we as parents have ALOT of responsibility to uphold; we must teach them the right ways and not follow the generations before us. I am so hurt and emotional because I have two boys.. who are black.. and it just makes me wonder how is it going to be when they are older? How is the world going to be then? Will racism be worse than it is now? Will it be better? Will the world have been delivered from that mindset of skin colour? Only God knows.

Sounds like a silly question doesn't it? But let me tell you something... 99 percent of the time I look and a feel a hot MESS. If it's not the bags under my eyes.. it's my bloodshot eyes.. if it's not my bloodshot eyes.. it's the fact I'm a walking zombie because I'm running on 4 hours of sleep. But that is my fault.. I take my mummy time very seriously and cherish every minute I have to myself. But you get the point. As mum's we don't have a lot of opportunities to get dressed up and go out without our kids attached to our legs.. But it's not even just that.. just general self care has to be carefully organized and planned. I remember when I just had my first son, Jeremiah.. I just about had self care down.. I'd be able to do my hair mask when he's down for his nap.. apply it to my hair.. and then keep it in my hair. Baby wakes up... and when I put him down to sleep.. I wash the hair mask out and do my normal hair care routine. ...

"How are you?" "I'm good.. the kids are good, you know the other day--" "No. no. How are YOU?" "Me?"  "Yes, you." "Tired. Run down. Do you not see the bags under my eyes?" "Yes. which is why I asked." "Besides the normality of motherhood, I am really good. Honestly. I really can't complain" "I'm so glad to hear that."

Sometimes I think back to when my boys had colds/flu.. in particular when my eldest had chicken pox before he even turned one.. and I felt so helpless. I had to just sit and watch him itch and itch and I couldn't do anything about it. I couldn't make it magically go away... he had to go through it. (The most I could do was put calamine lotion on him!!) But it's so hard to watch your children in pain or ill and there's not much you can do. We just have to let them soldier through it. There was a time Jeremiah was ill for nearly a week.. and literally all he was doing was sleeping. He would eat a little.. drink a little.. and sleep. Wake up.. drink a little.. go back to sleep. He had a temperature that wasn't going.. and he was sleeping. I got him checked out.. and literally I had to just watch him get over it. It was a viral kind of sickness and you know with viruses they have to do its course.. we can't stop it.. But as a parent you always wish that you c...

I have CONSTANTLY been saying this on my Instagram on a lot of my posts.. and I'm going to now break it down just a little for you guys to just get a taste of what we go through... and if you are already a boy mama or you have a son.. you already know the deal! As you know through the whole quarantine period.. the kids have definitely been driven up the wall.. and driving me up the wall too... For the past week or so.. my boys have been picking fights with each other... Yeah. You heard me. Picking. Fights. They would be playing one minute.. and the next one of them is slapping one in the face.. then kicking.. then wrestling. Hoo lawd. And it literally starts from NOWHERE. I can just be sitting down with them.. then one of them will get up and slap one in the face. And I'm like 'WHOA. Don't do that!" Sometimes I'm like.. are they getting tired of these four walls? Honestly.. I do find it hilarious-- the other day my youngest just did a forward rol...