Transparency Tuesday: Can Mother's be beautiful?

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Sounds like a silly question doesn't it?

But let me tell you something... 99 percent of the time I look and a feel a hot MESS. If it's not the bags under my eyes.. it's my bloodshot eyes.. if it's not my bloodshot eyes.. it's the fact I'm a walking zombie because I'm running on 4 hours of sleep. But that is my fault.. I take my mummy time very seriously and cherish every minute I have to myself.

But you get the point.

As mum's we don't have a lot of opportunities to get dressed up and go out without our kids attached to our legs..
But it's not even just that.. just general self care has to be carefully organized and planned.

I remember when I just had my first son, Jeremiah.. I just about had self care down.. I'd be able to do my hair mask when he's down for his nap.. apply it to my hair.. and then keep it in my hair. Baby wakes up... and when I put him down to sleep.. I wash the hair mask out and do my normal hair care routine.

A couple of times a month I'd go and get my feet done... (Damn you Corona! I'm overdue for a pedicure).. and a lot of the time, I go when I know that my son will fall asleep.. so I actually have the me time I need!

But now that I've got two kids.. I'm at a loss... the planning to do certain things doesn't work because one of them will wake up out of their sleep unexpectedly.. or I literally have no time to even sit down because I'm either playing with the kids.. cleaning up the mess every two seconds.. doing loads of laundry.. the list is endless.

It's not about being TOLD that I'm beautiful, but actually feeling it within myself. Mothers.. we have a lot on our plates.. we are not only mothers... we're wives, sisters, friends, colleagues, teachers, cooks, counsellors.. there's a lot of caps that we wear.. so to actually sit back and have that time to take care of US..

Yeah. To answer my question at the beginning. We can be beautiful.. it's just a lot of the time it doesn't feel like we are.

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