Transparency Tuesday: The dark place

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We have all encountered a time where our minds have slipped into what I call 'the dark place'.

This is NOT a great place to be.

I advise anyone that has been in this place to escape as quickly as possible and never go back.

This place brings back bad thoughts; emotions; feelings; flashbacks; memories of all of the times that you do not want to remember. Do you know what the trigger of entering this dark place is?

Being idle. Not so good company. Being alone. Being sad. Feeling worthless. Just being in a not so good mood. Generally negative vibes.

We are all human and we do end up sometimes thinking of things we shouldn't. I entered this place a lot before and after pregnancy-- this is when the hormones are jumping around like crazy because now they are readjusting and going back into place.

And the worst part is.. you can FEEL yourself slipping into it-- and if you're not careful it can end up in depression or thinking very dark thoughts that you never thought you could think of.

That's why especially when you are pregnant and after, you must make sure you are around people you know that can distract you from such a place, and you're always around good positive vibes.

You don't even have to pregnant or have children to enter this place... has there been a time that you feel alone even though there are people around you?
It does happen.

COMMUNICATE! Talk to someone you can really confide in and get those feelings out! It works wonders and it takes you far away from this place that you do not need to be in.

A lot of the time we suffer in silence and we don't need to. There are people that want to be around you-- don't push them away.
It's a rarity to have people that genuinely want your best interests at heart-- keep them around.

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