Transparency Tuesday: A reflection of you

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Sometimes when I just watch my kids play.. or just watch them doing what they do in the day.. I see myself so much in them it's unbelievable.

Ok duh. Clearly they grew inside of me so obviously they will have traces of me in them.. but what I mean is like certain characteristics.. and mannerisms... even the way they laugh and smile.

It's actually quite amazing.

Sometimes I sit there and marvel-- like wow this came out of me?

But also... I see my not so good characteristics in my kids and I'm like..
"Yep! This is so me" and I now have to devise a strategy to try and unravel it...

No one told me about this!

I just thought.. you experience the magical experience pregnancy... labour... delivery... and.. you take care of the child.
Not realizing you have tackle so much in the taking care of the child part.

You have to make sure they learn their morals, their manners; make sure that they are aware of themselves, how to compose themselves.. they need to learn their when and where's.. behaviour watch.. etc.

Never in a million years can anyone prep you or even touch on this kind of experience. This is an  experience that is personal.. you must go through it and make notes!
How can you create an actual plan on a strong willed child... when you too are strong willed!

It makes me laugh actually... but that is the beauty of life.

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