Transparency Tuesday: Discipline Vs Spanking
There is always going to be a side eye or a comment to how everybody deals with their children..
There's people that don't believe in spanking...
There's people that don't believe in shouting at their children..
You get the picture.
But there's one thing we need to get straight: There is a different between disciplining your child and spanking your child.
Spanking your child is literally... causing some physical pain- whether it would be a smack on the bum or hand.
Whereas discipline is teaching your child a lesson through punishment. Punishment is not spanking. A punishment can be putting them on the naughty step, or taking away one of their favourite toys for the day-- and then once you do this, you explain to your child why you are doing this so that they understand not to do this again.
Me personally.. I just got knocked in the mouth and that was it. No explanation, no warning.. just a pop in the mouth and got told to not do it again.
But the kids of this generation are so different... and I am realizing I can't raise my kids like that.
Don't get me wrong-- if my child takes it too far, they will get a little smack on the hand. But the only difference is I will let my child know why I am doing it and let them know they shouldn't do this again.
The kids that are coming nowadays are so advanced it is unbelievable. They understand so much already.
So we as parents have to implement strategies that we know will work for our kids.
Every child is different and the way we deal with them can never be the same. Some children immediately listen after you give them a good telling off... some children may respond to a smack on a hand and a stern talking to...
We have to figure out what measure is best and work with it.
Personally.. with my 2 boys-- the way I deal with them are a little bit different. With my 3 year old, at first the minute he did something-- my hand was ready to slap his bum, hand etc.. but as I was observing him, actually that method was actually NOT working.
So what I've began to implement is if he's playing with one of his favourite toys.. and lets say he hits his brother or does something unacceptable. I take it away, and make him stand somewhere by himself because I've noticed he doesn't like to be in a place by himself for too long. Once that's done, I sit him down and explain. Some people might think this is sill because he's only 3.. but the way my children understand is remarkable. So I let him know why I did what I did and he really does get it.
There are also days where he will also get a tap on the bum or hand, but that's only if what he did was ridiculously unacceptable.
With my 1 year old.. it's two things: A little tap on the hand, or I change the tone of my voice and he will immediately stop what he's doing and listen.
This motherhood/parenthood life, is not a straight road at all! We are literally learning every single day.
There's people that don't believe in spanking...
There's people that don't believe in shouting at their children..
You get the picture.
But there's one thing we need to get straight: There is a different between disciplining your child and spanking your child.
Spanking your child is literally... causing some physical pain- whether it would be a smack on the bum or hand.
Whereas discipline is teaching your child a lesson through punishment. Punishment is not spanking. A punishment can be putting them on the naughty step, or taking away one of their favourite toys for the day-- and then once you do this, you explain to your child why you are doing this so that they understand not to do this again.
Me personally.. I just got knocked in the mouth and that was it. No explanation, no warning.. just a pop in the mouth and got told to not do it again.
But the kids of this generation are so different... and I am realizing I can't raise my kids like that.
Don't get me wrong-- if my child takes it too far, they will get a little smack on the hand. But the only difference is I will let my child know why I am doing it and let them know they shouldn't do this again.
The kids that are coming nowadays are so advanced it is unbelievable. They understand so much already.
So we as parents have to implement strategies that we know will work for our kids.
Every child is different and the way we deal with them can never be the same. Some children immediately listen after you give them a good telling off... some children may respond to a smack on a hand and a stern talking to...
We have to figure out what measure is best and work with it.
Personally.. with my 2 boys-- the way I deal with them are a little bit different. With my 3 year old, at first the minute he did something-- my hand was ready to slap his bum, hand etc.. but as I was observing him, actually that method was actually NOT working.
So what I've began to implement is if he's playing with one of his favourite toys.. and lets say he hits his brother or does something unacceptable. I take it away, and make him stand somewhere by himself because I've noticed he doesn't like to be in a place by himself for too long. Once that's done, I sit him down and explain. Some people might think this is sill because he's only 3.. but the way my children understand is remarkable. So I let him know why I did what I did and he really does get it.
There are also days where he will also get a tap on the bum or hand, but that's only if what he did was ridiculously unacceptable.
With my 1 year old.. it's two things: A little tap on the hand, or I change the tone of my voice and he will immediately stop what he's doing and listen.
This motherhood/parenthood life, is not a straight road at all! We are literally learning every single day.
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