Thoughtful Thursday: Balance

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There was one fear I had when I found out I was having another baby...
"How am I going to make time for the two of them?"

Even sometimes presently I fear that maybe I'm paying attention to one more than another...
Both of my boys have things going on with them that do need attention.. Jeremiah (3 year old) with his speech.. and Matthew (2 year old) with his food allergies.
With Jeremiah, everyday I do exercises with him in regards to his speech.. I've got 2 apps on his tablet that also aid in speech therapy.. so we do that together.. and throughout the day I do things with him and say certain words for him to repeat back to me.

Matthew.. I need to be constantly cooking food for him because there is a lot of food he can't eat! So a lot of different meats.. fish.. stews... rice.. etc.
So it does take up a lot of time.. and sometimes I feel like "Oh no.. I hope they don't feel like i'm not paying much attention to them"

But one thing that I have adopted.. a lot of the activities I do with Jeremiah.. I let Matthew also join in; and he actually has a lot of fun! He doesn't have a speech problem, (Not that I'm aware of.. he says a lot of words!) But there's no harm in doing it! And it can benefit him either way.
Also.. what I try and do is let them play together a lot.. but even this I don't even have to force-- they wake up in the morning, say hi to each other, give themselves a hug and start playing lol.

So maybe.. I'm just worrying myself for no reason. I don't ever want them to feel neglected or that I don't want to spend time with them... they're children but the perceive a lot.

Mama's with more than 1 child.. how do you balance it?

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