Transparency Tuesday: Shouting. Is it the solution?

It is extremely easy to just shout.

"Stop that!"

"Don't jump on the bed!"

"Put that down!"

And the list can go on...

And don't get me wrong.. sometimes we do need to shout-- but it shouldn't become the way we are with our kids as a whole.

The reason why we shout.. or let me just speak for me personally, is a result of frustration because the children are not listening to what I have to say.

But as a result.. I realize that they are starting to slowly emulate that behaviour. And kids will be kids.. they copy everything that we do.

So.. I have implemented a new strategy on how to get them to listen.

Instead of always shouting; sometimes what I now do is I will call either my older child or my younger child by their name, and ask them to come. When they come, I make sure they look me in my eye and I just speak to them.

And it works.

Sometimes they think I'm gonna tell them off.. so they're a little reluctant to come towards me; so I extend my arms open and give them a hug.

Trust me... this strategy doesn't always work lol; and I do have to shout at some points-- but it's varied; so shouting is not the only way I communicate. I make sure I speak to them and that they understand me enough.

The thing about shouting is-- it will get the child's attention, especially if it catches them off guard; but that is about it. You'll shout and shout.. they'll be quiet for a couple of minutes and then just go back to the thing you were shouting at them for.

I would like you to comment below with your strategies that you found work for your children.