Thoughtful Thursday: I should of had kids younger..

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I was doing something so silly the other night in my "Mummy time".
Mummy time is basically when I have alone time to think... recharge. regroup and just enjoy my own company without two small toddlers running around screaming the house down!

I was literally calculating how old I'll be and how old my children will be in like 10, 15 years.

I'm 31.. (32 next month.. eek!).. so in 15 years I'm going to be 46! and in 15 years my kids will be 18 and 17.

Hooo my gawd! And it just made me think.. maybe I should of planned to have kids earlier. But to be honest God has a time for everything and everyone in life-- and I really don't think I would have been able to finish college/uni if I had kids younger. Because the way that I get so distracted by them and lose focus I think it would have taken a long time to get back into education and get all of the qualifications that I gained now.

There are some people that can give birth young and still do everything I'm talking about with, with absolutely no struggle.
Me personally.. just thinking about it now.. the mental state I was in around my early 20's was not very healthy and to bring in children into that would have not been as equally healthy.

Then fast forward to when I was 28... and had my first child.. I took it in my stride and bam a second one came not long after.

I really believe God has a plan for each and every individual... as much as I do sometimes think maybe if I had my kids younger.. I think for my life.. the time I had them was the time I was supposed to.

No regrets.. I've got my kids and I'm blessed.

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