Thoughtful Thursday: A bad day doesn't mean you're a bad parent

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Honestly...

I had a very hard week/weekend last week with Jeremiah. I don't know what was happening but it's like he was in meltdown mode anytime we would go outside.

The day before they broke up for half term.. it was just all over the place. I decided I wanted to do some quick errands before dropping him off to nursery, but from when we went to the shops... until we go to the nursery... meltdown. Throwing himself on the floor.. screaming. throwing things, kicking.. all of it.

When we got to the nursery gates.. he clung to my leg.. so I literally had to hoist him on my shoulder and carry him in.. while doing this he is kicking and screaming and hits me in the face.

People were staring.. I always get stares when Jeremiah's behaviour goes a bit over the rails....

And then this carried onto the weekend.. I went to my local Tesco.. he threw the biggest meltdown/tantrum, knocking displays and throwing the stuff I was checking out (was at self checkout) to the point one of my items got broken...

..as a result he ended up taking off his shoes, and walking barefoot.

Yeah. It was a long weekend.
And I really was beating myself up all weekend and even now still.. questioning myself.. just mentally beating myself up.. 
This does not by any means mean I am a bad parent.. as much as I was telling myself that.
Children have their moment.. or moments and they are entitled to. 
I think it's more of because we don't know what to do in that moment.. it makes us feel as if we know nothing. 

But we are learning,

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