Transparency Tuesday: I had my first night out after 1 year of being locked in my house!

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Bahahaha… I must say lockdown has stunted our social lives... but I had the chance to go out by myself.. with NO CHILDREN and a had a hell of a time!

I'm part of a book club by a sister of mine (she's not my biological sister but she is close enough to be one), and it was our time to meet up and discuss the book that we were reading for that time.

Guys.

It felt so good. And do you know what the best part is? I did not feel guilty about it! Usually.. when I go out and leave my kids behind.. I would get extreme mummy guilt and just be imagining what they are doing at that point in time.. and they would take over my mind that I forget about myself.

But I've now come to the realisation that it should be the NORM for me to have time for myself.. to recharge and to unwind. It's not everyday.. I need a BREAK. And that does not mean I am a bad mom!

It felt so good that for a long time I'm on my own.. doing what I want to do.. adult conversation. Amazing.
And the place was absolute VIBES. Nice restaurant.. nice food.. good company.. it was absolutely amazing.

I loved every second of it.

I need to do that for myself more often. It will make me a better mother. When you take care of yourself.. you are taking care of your kids.

Remember that!

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