Dee: (The) Mama Blog

So.. over the past several weeks Jeremiah has been settling in pretty well after his 2 weeks of sensory meltdowns. And now he's getting into the swing of primary school--we've been working on phonics and letter formation, and he was getting so frustrated with himself... and went "I can't do it!" I had to change the perspective quickly.. I sat him down and told him that he can do it, told him that he was smart and he can do anything when he works hard and keeps on trying. The next days to come-- his letter formation changed dramatically and he went to me 'Mummy I did it!" I was so happy because my words gave him the confidence to keep on going-- we still have a lot of practice to go through-- but his letters are legible and the fact that he WANTS to do it just makes me feel so good inside. We really have the biggest impact on our children.. everyday there are moments that continually show me that there is so much I still have to learn.

So a little while back I shared a story of my boys getting chased by dogs... The fear is still gripping them... but Matthew had a breakthrough.. when we were walking to school I went up to go and pet a dog, and Matthew enthusiastically was like 'I want to pet it too'.. and he did! He was a little scared and did a little happy yelp, but he did it. Jeremiah was shouting 'No' the whole time and stayed as far away as possible. lol! The only progression with Jeremiah is that he doesn't run in the road when he sees one.. he will hide behind me or stop in his tracks next to me until the dog passes. Some people can see he's afraid and they cross the road.. bless them. How can fear be conquered in children? For sure we need to be the example.. but what if you have been and they are just stone cold afraid?

I truly understand what my mother had to go through to raise me.. Now that I'm a mother.. and I have children of my own.. the amount of sacrifice that a mother has to go through is immense. There is so much that we do as mothers that aren't seen.. the prayers we whisper in our quiet time-- sometimes tears are rolling down our faces because all we want is our children not to go through what we went through, or to not struggle-- we just want the absolute best for them. I know I stressed my mother out.. I never wanted to leave her side, I always wanted to be around her, to the point if someone had to come and babysit me, I would forcefully vomit because I wanted my mother so bad. This is a mother's heart. We love our children so much-- and it radiates throughout to the point it may appear as if your child is 'clingy' or too 'attached' or sometimes children are even called 'spoiled'.  No. The heart we are have for our children... it's a special hea